Why are people in general so angry?. What’s wrong with people that most have an attitude problem? Do you have a snappy attitude? Do you enjoy intimidating others? What’s eating people up these day you almost have to avoid eye contact for fear of a conflict. Why do you do react to situations the way you do? But you are going to say “I’m not angry. I’m not reacting”. And I am going say back “Yes you are”. And you are going to say back “man what the heck is wrong with you,what are you talking about?” I’m going to tell you that you ain’t going to win this one today. Your excuses are not going to work here. You are going to have to face the music if you continue reading this article!
So who do you hate then? Who has done the evil to you? Your mother, your father, brother, sister, who? Who do you harbor inside that has caused the entanglement you are living with everyday in your mind. Those thoughts that don’t let you sleep at night. You may not like what I am saying. But like everyone who is in denial you will make all sort of excuses when someone like me suddenly puts a flashlight in your face and dares to ask you the question, “Why do you not admit that there is something that is not right about the way you behave?”. Why do people in general find it so hard to admit it when they are wrong? It’s no wonder we have so much addicts and the liquor store have become a safe haven. A place where people go to calm down the beast; that magic portion made especially for broken hearts. The liquors stores are there for that very purpose.
I want to address the fact that there is something wrong with you and every person that has lived is alive and will live. That someone has done a great damage to you, you don’t want to face. A damage you are most likely not aware of. And so therefore unconsciously you have become a veneer of your true self or worst you have become the very thing you hate, your mother, your father, ect. That’s the veneer.
What do I mean you have become the very thing you hate? Ok that’s where I’m going with this. There is no other way about it so I am going to put the flash light in your face and you are going to do one of two things. You will either run like a vampire before a crucifix or you will be unique and for the first time in your life will take the challenge and see yourself for what you really are. This will scare the majority of people, but if, if you are one of the few who are ready for a reality check, after reading this article you will be changed for the rest of your life.
Are you getting scared? Well you shouldn’tbe you are not on “Scare Tactics”. (smile)
You do have the choice of going back into your little corner of feeling sorry for yourself universe; continue on blaming others for your short comings; deny there is something wrong with you; get mad at me and how dare I, just back to whatever rock you want to crawl under and hide your despicable pitiful self as you find yourself at this very moment. Because the not too distant future is not for the faint in heart. It is going to be for the strong of heart and self determined. Your salvation into the future is going to depend upon what type of will you possess. Especially you gentlement out there.
So here we go.
Most people are a veneer of themselves, a clone mentally of the very person that caused the damage. People in the highest of place occupying the highest of position very little suspect they have been conditioned to follow the crowd or suffer being an outcast. What you were and are meant to be, what purpose it is that you exist for has been stolen from you. The very positive energy that you once had has been robbed from you. You are a culmination of your total experience up to this very point you are reading this. You will have to come to grip with the reality that who you are at this very moment is not the real you. That what you think you are is a clone of someone else. That someone else probably the closest person to you is whom you are representing. I am going to show you that you are much more than what you have been lead to believe. That purposefully someone in your life has stolen your energy, your innocence, your intuition and discernment and because of this you are totally beside yourself. I will tell you that the only people that are not going to see this truth in their life at this moment are those who are not ready to see.
But if you are ready than I assure you, blessed you will be. This is going to be a straight forward reality check without any sugar coating. You will be blessed!
Do you remember when you were little? For many of you it will take a strong will since it may have been a very sad experience or traumatic. Especially since our parents are the first violators in our growing up. For those of you that can relive those moments, healing will come a little faster. But nevertheless, I will take you who have been harmed traumatically thru this painful relieving of your experience and will give you the remedy to be finally free form the grasp of that trauma. You will have to do one very important thing. You will have to trust me. Yeap I know that will be hard to do, I understand, I get it since you don’t know me personally. But without this trust you will continue this reading with secret judgment and this very judgment will be the element that will keep you from freeing yourself.
For judgment is one of the key elements you will have to come to understand that is bringing a judgment upon you in an endless cycle. The next thing you will have to understand and face is the resentment you have against the perpetrators who inflicted the damage upon you. Again you will say “ I don’t have any resentment!” And I will say “Yes you do”. You may not understand this, but you do and are governed by this hideous thing call resentment. Whether you believe it or not you have been living a fake life governed by resentment and judgment. These two key factors are keeping you a slave in your mind. The system in place wants to keep you this way since you are easy to control. When you understand these two principles you will be equipped with more wisdom than you can ever imagine. You will then have an uncommon virtue, uncommon valor.
RESENTMENT
I wrote about this in my article “The Cycle of Cruelty”. Resentment is like a plaque that infects everyone without notice. It is like a leech that attaches to the back of your brain which robs you of your sanity. If you are a treky fan you see this in a lot of Star Trek episodes. It is like an infectious disease left behind by the person who harmed you and unconsciously transforms you into that very person you have learned to hate thru your emotional reactions. You therefore develop their very characteristics in time. You become them and you think it is who you are. How does this happen?
Well it starts when you are little and your parents are a god to you. You are totally dependent on them for your very existence. It is because of this dependence that whoever is raising you has control over your very being. What they learned thru whoever raised them they transferred on to you. Children are like a sponge soaking up everything in the environment and so naturally they will emulate and reflect whatever manner of person their parents are. Children actually grow up to be a very reflection of their parents in general. There are those circumstances that some children either just defy good parents or turn out great despite very bad parents. This is not what I am talking about since it is a different realm of its own.
What I am addressing here is what the word “resentment” implies. Resentment means to “re-sent” something. Like “Would you please re-send that email to me”. So what is happening here is that you have these thoughts, those experiences you have lived swirling around in your mind, your unconscious mind. Every so often one of those thought especially the one you engage the most, just shoots out like a bolt of lightning and you engage it than another ones shoots out and you engage that. This eventually becomes a habit forming event which in time makes you the person that you are today. You are thus entangled in your mind by these negative thoughts you don’t understand. These negative thoughts are the ones responsible for a depressed mode. It all started when the incident took place and you kept thinking about it over and over again. In other words you kept resending those thoughts by thinking about the experience. Depression is an accumulation of anger foster by continual resentment and then guilt.
How did these thoughts become part of you? It happened thru your reactions to those experiences you have lived. This will continue to happen until you come to understand you have to stop reacting. Unfortunately, they will be the very thing you as a parent will inflict upon your children when the time comes around. When you react to whatever the stimuli is, your reaction opens the port hole to your mind. When this happens the enemy’s spirit is able to get into you like a phantom. Before you know you begin to behave like the very person you are trying to avoid. If you however forbear to react they can’t get into you. This friends is the key that locks or unlocks your mind to being hypnotize by someone or an experience. This is your safe guard.
What has happened to you is that you have been hypnotized by the experience! Being hypnotized means you do things and don’t know you are doing them. Most people would just response “This is how I am”. But as I said before, who you are in your present state is not who you really are. This is the identity crisis that all man and woman born are plaque with. When you finally come to know who you really are it will be the most revealing experience you will live. You will for the first time become alive.
JUDGMENT
What is this judgment thing about? Good question. This is the second biggest strive all relationships will have to endure especially the married kind. Well this goes all the way back to your child hood too. A time in your life when innocence is all you knew. The innocence of a child is precious and holds no guile. It can’t be convicted of any ill because it knows life to be whatever it is and has no conscience of its own. It has no capability to judge. After we grow up and have developed, we learn to make comparison of things and situation. But based on wrong experiences. We thru the wrong experiences have learned not to be righteous in our judgment but unjust because we have learned to be focused on self. You become a universe of your own. God is not in the picture in this high heaven of yours. A high heaven in your head you learned from your parents.
So let’s look at what judging others is and what it is that is taking place. Most people are apprehensive about other people. They have a wall around them due to a predisposition about everyone they come into contact with. If it wasn’t for this barrier people built around themselves, if they would just be good to others the world would be a much better place needless to say. But since everyone is walking around with a defense barrier they are hindered from been real. A predisposed mind functions like this:
First there is the luggage of resentment they carry in the form of hurt, abuse physically or verbally, put downs, unloved, rejection and everything that is a bad experience. Of course these experiences have been inflicted by none other than human beings especially the ones closest to us. This has set up the stage for the creation of a defense mechanism in the form of this barrier of protection. Judgment comes into place as each person is trying to outguess the other as to what sort of individual they are. They internally have formulated this whole scenario in their mind as to how to scrutinize the other person.
Most initial smiles are fake to the core and full of dishonest intentions. Few people actually smile with honor. So then when a person looks at another person and wrongly assumes the other person is giving them nasty look, or is not smiling or just not reacting the way they think they are suppose to according to them, that person indicts the other immediately. The next thing that results is a feeling of uneasiness inside. They have begun to think the other person is really thinking wrong about them. The person doing the judging then puts a frown on their face believing they are being looked at wrongly. But what is really happening here is that the person doing all the judging is actually creating all of this in their own mind. The other person is mostly likely oblivious to any of this. But the person doing the judging has begun to believe something is really taking place. When it is not; it’s all happening in their mind.
What is really happening here is that the judgment made upon the other person has become a judgment upon the one doing the judgment. You are actually judging yourself which is making you feel uncomfortable. The other person is not doing anything. It is you who are doing it all. You in a sense are observing yourself for what you really are in the other person. You are looking at yourself thru that person by projecting this judgement on them. A very psychotic thing is taking place in you. You than get mad at the person but this madness is your own doing not the other person. So everything that takes place is taking place in your mind not that other person.
Your conscience, the little voice always talking to you is the one causing you to feel this way. The one you have being running away from all your life. Your conscience is you; your real form. That light we are born with that is causing your dark side to react thru you. That is whom you will have to face. That’s where you need to be. But this is what you run away from, yes you alcholics, workaholics, overeaters, abusers, child molesters, whimpy fathers, etc,ect; Your conscience judges your dark side which gets mad thru you. Your ego.
The reason why people gossip about other; why blamers and mourners gather people around is simply to avoid themselves. Now judgment is not being wise in looking at someone and realizing by their behavior something is not right. Judgment is what you are doing in the privacy of your mind when you convict a person right there and then like a jury of one and find that person guilty of whatever conclusion you make of them. But that conclusion you make unjustly, is simply the real you coming out judging you! Not the other person. Are you with me? That other person you have been transformed into thru your childhood experience is reacting thru you. It is not you but it is thinking thru you making you feel like it is you. You are really battling yourself. This is why you see people angry all the time and unhappy even when they are alone. They are carrying this judgment around with them like the plaque.
A judgment they are inflicting upon themselves by blaming others for it. It is really a perverted mindset that has been born out of just judging people in general. If one was to forbear to make an assessment of anyone and just not do nothing things would be mighty different. Judgmental people if they found themselves in this type of clean and free atmosphere would feel like being in the twilight zone. They would feel out of sync, out of place and time. They would feel so uncomfortable they would revere back to their old despicable way. So it’s going to take time to embrace being the real you.
Therefore, this continuous type of behavior that has now become part of your character has to stop. When someone nip pick on everything; when just about anything causes them to react it is the effect of the judgmental conditions they are mentally in. You need to stop judging and get on with your life! For if you were worried about your own person you would be too busy to worry about anyone else . You would be busy with yourself for the rest of your life! You need to become somewhat like Spock the character from Star Trek. Emotion is illogical. Logic needs to have a greater space in your mind.
All you see people doing when they react is an act of emotional out bust like a child in a tantrum. People who have this emotional instability are too busy with other people’s matter instead of their own. It is in fact a scapegoat approach in avoiding looking at your pitiful self. A blamer and moaner way of finding the guilt in everyone else and thus avoiding looking at the one thing we are guilty of. Your own SIN! You have to let go of those who have harmed you, for if you don’t you will grow old as you are.
In a marriage both partners after a continuous history of both judgment and resentment carry a file of indictment on each other. It takes only a very slight discomfort; be it from not taking out the garbage to sacks left on the floor or just laying down on the couch for one partner to shout out something negative to the other; a plates falls or crumbs of bread fall on the floor when one partner becomes upset by such a darn thing. What is causing that person to react in such a way is the luggage of indictments they have built about that person. But it’s really the person doing the complaining that has the issue. They have resentment of the individual that comes out in the form of judgment.
Ladies I will thread on dangerous ground for what I am about to say. But if you are an honest woman you will see the truth. You ladies have learned very well from your moms the art of judgment. You carry a large file of resentment from the beginning on your husband or mate to the end. For example wives gets upset for the simplest thing which often time leaves the man thinking to himself “what the neck just happened?” What lies underneath is hatred and resentment ladies. Husband are not so judgmental on their wives, they usually want to keep the peace by whatever means necessary. Husband who are emotionally reactive are behaving like females. The many irritations both suffer against each other are a real travesty especially since unknowingly the children will learn the same. Again it is always the person reacting that has the problem not the other way around. Why not forbear to react and judge and watch what happens when you don’t. Just watch.
But now listen well. Because of wimpy husbands (I call them King Kongs in blumers) the females looking for correction from him and not getting it causes her to have even more resentment. Are you getting it gentlement? Just like Adam ,the ball is in your court!
I hope this is making sense to you now. Whether you believe it or not today you have been blessed by reading this. Just wait and see. All you have to do is forbear to react and change your behaviour. You might have to re-read this information again and that’s fine.
People grow old and miserable inside, their visage painting a picture to the world of who they really have been all their life. Is this the way you want people to remember you, especially your children? I don’t believe so. I believe every person wants a more happier life and a smile to leave behind.
Perhaps now you will understand Jesus words:
(KJV) Judge not, that ye be not judged.